Life After College

It’s been around 6 months since I have completed my college. So many memories were made there. So, many dreams were had. Now facing reality makes me question why people want to do this. I mean as a society we have advanced enough that we should just find ways to let Robots take over all the backbreaking work and we should just enjoy our time on Earth

I guess I am just having the existential crisis that most people have right after they leave college. The first few months were awesome. I woke up and did thing I liked. No more waking up early to catch the bus, No more trying to do assignments on time, not like I did any during college it just feels good to enjoy when you have nothing lined up to do. No more things that you can ignore and reap the consequences of. Then a thought hits suddenly, No more academic consequences. Which means no more adult guiding ordering you to do something.

You are on your own

– me

In all sense this is freedom. The freedom to do whatever you want. Purse what you love to the world’s end. Which also means the consequences aren’t you getting a lower grade. This time around it means you don’t know what the consequences. Which for me meant I needed to manage my finances. No more relying on parents. I guess if you live your life mine I do. There will be moment of realization after you spend your first month salary and check bank balance.

“Who stole my money”

– me

The answer was I did. When given freedom to shoot your own foot. You shoot it a lot of times and part of fun being a young adult trying to figure these things on my own.

So, if you came across this weird blog, here are some of my findings I had after I became an young adult.

[!CAUTION]

If you are the kind of person to read and believe and do whatever You see on the internet that means you are an idiot and I am not responsible for idiots. DO NOT TAKE THIS AS ADVICE

– word of caution.

USE FINANCE BUDGETING SOFTWARE

There are like a lot of budgeting software out there. Use them. Install a couple and try them out. See what works for you. For some Excel or just writing them down in a notes or a account book will do. For me I am self-hosting fireflyiii and on my phone I am using waterfly-iii. Honestly one of the best ways to manage my finances.

So, whatever software or way your noting them down. The important point is to NOTE them down. Make it a habit every day at the end enter how much you have spent on that day and calculate if what you had from yesterday - what you spent today = what you have now

This gave a lot of insights into how much I spent on food and other things. I was kinda surprised I was spending this much on things. This will help you budget for things you wanna save up for.

REALLY HARD TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH FRIENDS

When you start your first job. Suddenly, all the time you have will sink into that. You can’t just skip work like you used to skip school/college. You suddenly go from seeing your best friend everyday at college and hanging out all the times. To ones or twice a month and the logistics to find a day where everyone is free become a hell. Especially when everyone goes somewhere else for work or other reasons. Kids (I feel sooo… old lol), try to hang out with your friends cause one day you gonna wake up and realise it’s damn near impossible for everyone to come together. If you have the chance to hangout you say ‘yes’. Cause the great one have said

“Whatever you do in this life, it’s not legendary unless your friends are there to see it.”

– Barney Stinson

“Life can be good by yourself. But, like everything else, the best experiences are always the ones you share with others.”

– random greek knowledge I found on the internet

Suddenly you will be left with 4 or 5 people you talk on a regular. You still have the internet to keep in connection with others. Even if some leave for USA without you (Good luck on your MBA and Masters peeps ).

BRAIN ROT

STOP USING PHONES. BRAIN ROT IS REAL

FAILED DREAMS

The side project you swear you were gonna finish before final year. The side hustle you wanted to start so you can see some income. The company you wanted to create. For most people it dies here. Yeah… You really have to push yourself and manage your time in a day to pursue what you like. Because all your energy would be spent on work and the rest you gonna have to rest or straight to burnout it is.

WFH (Work From Home) vs WFO (Work From Office)

If you have the privilege to work from home. Always choose work from home. No time wasted on travel. You can finish your work without being distracted or getting tired just from the travel. The most importantly if you work properly and finish tasks on time. You work just 8 hours and not more.

And not to mention how much tired you get by just travelling in the heat. The laundry you have to do because you need to wear work attire.

SOMETHING’S AREN’T MEANT TO BE FOREVER

Well you are bound to do some stupid shit that makes you lose certain things. You are gonna wish you did something different. Learn from your mistakes. Beat yourself up a little bit but don’t forget to ever let it happen again. Certain things are worth more than money and career. Don’t be an idiot. All you can do is learn and try to move on. If you are feeling down eat a lot of cheesecake(Lafayette) and Ice Cream(ibacco cotton candy and bubblegum).

WORKOUT

I have put on a lot of weight after I finished college. Mainly due to sitting in a single place. Been meaning to work out properly. Been lazy. So, this is one of the ‘Do as I and not as I do’ things. Go to Gym, maintain your health. Be cautious of what you eat. Your metabolism ain’t gonna be like as when you were growing up.

HAVE FUN

I have been always interested in ancient philosophers and their saying. The teaching of different school of thoughts have been very helpful in my life. Especially the stoic ones. While I am more interested in stoic philosophy (btw i do not mean the cringy tiktok/reel/yt-shorts and those motivational channels). The philosophy of Nihilism is also pretty good. As far as I am concerned we are in a small rock in the vast space going around in a very hot star and if there is a bigger meaning out there. We are too small of a significance to worry too much about it. Think about it whatever you are feeling right now. However depressed you may get. Just pull your head out of your ass and think about how the vast the fucking universe is. The limitless rocks out there and we are in this one and we are just an anomaly in this. Our existence has no significance. It’s kinda relieving that whatever we do has no greater effect on the cosmos.

Just try to Make the best out of what you are handed. If by any chance you are reading this. Which means you have internet, a phone/pc be grateful for that.

Whatever happens happens...

– space cowboy